Colonial Beach, Virginia
Are we having fun yet? And an exposé of Baptist polygamy . . .
Polygamy has a long and ugly history. The Bible reports on it while never condoning it. In every case noted in the Bible it leads to family strife and dysfunction. Muslims have a long-standing history of practicing polygamy. They are allowed up to four wives, providing they can support each of them equally. (Of course, if they can’t, or don’t want to any longer, divorce is a simple matter also.) There has been a lot in the news lately about the “fundamentalist Mormons” and their practicing polygamy illegally. I want to report on a surreptitious practice among Baptists and other main-line protestant denominations. It has spread even among Catholics, Jews and other religious groups also. This insidious polygamy involves boats.
Men who are otherwise hard-working, loving fathers and husbands, wimps, macho men, all types of men practice this little-recognized polygamy. It’s called: “love me, love my boat.” Other victims of this polygamy will have no trouble recognizing it and agreeing with my portrayal of it. It starts so innocently and grows to become an all-consuming loop.
It usually begins with a small fishing boat, bought early in spring when the crappie are bedding. “Fresh fish for dinner!” is the cry. This type of boat often converts to a duck blind in the winter, confusing the naive wife and making it appear less offensive and even benign. This first stage of the polygamy may last for a short while or the polygamist may drag it out longer, slowly enveloping the wife into the practice before she is aware of what is happening.
A promotion at work often triggers the next phase. As part of celebrating the new job, the polygamist treats the “family” to a larger boat. In this manner the entire family is dragged into the despicable practice. Children are bribed to participate with promises of Saturdays spent water skiing, picnicking, going on family fishing trips and other family-friendly activities. Any promise may be used to lure the unsuspecting family into the polygamist web. Amid all this, church attendance is promoted and the boat is carefully kept stored until after dinner on that day, adding to the deception.
The poor wife is so elated that the often workaholic father is participating in family activities that she actually supports the practice. Too late she realizes that the boat has become the second, third, or even higher-numbered wife. It is at this point that multiple boats may enter the picture. There’s one for fishing, one for water skiing and “family activities” and possibly a small, innocent-looking little rowboat that will morph into a dinghy when the dreaded “cruiser” is purchased.
Alas the poor wife. By now she’s hooked and finds herself joining in, soothing her conscience by reminding herself that it’s “for the family.” Children brought up in this environment go on to practice this polygamy themselves, rationalizing by telling themselves and their own families that they only participate on Saturdays and Sunday afternoons and that it’s wholesome family time spent together. I write this as warning to you other naïve innocents out there: Beware, you too may be caught up in the web and find yourself in a gale “doing the Great Loop.”
We had a rainy time in DC, but spent the time profitably: napping, stashing, stowing, doing the Laundromat shuffle and fold, and sealing leaks. The best time to find and identify leaks is during a rainstorm. You can do it during a rough crossing, but then you run the risk of falling overboard, possibly delaying the crossing, soaked, hopefully pulled from the drink, and, after all this, the seals don’t hold up when applied to wet spots. The sun finally made its appearance on Saturday morning. Gary and I immediately asked the location of the closest unisex barber shop/salon and set out to find it.
It was in L’Enfant Plaza, about a half-mile walk from the marina. That wouldn’t have been bad, we needed the exercise, but Gary’s knees have gotten so bad I’ve almost talked him into seeing an orthopaedist when we go home. It was a slow walk with many stops. We finally found the salon, which turned out to be closed, as were most of the stores in the mall where it was located. It seemed strange to us, but this is DC. The offices occupying most of the building were closed, therefore the stores were also. Apparently tourists don’t shop in underground malls on weekends.
Gary called Edward and he gave instructions about how to catch the Metro and get to Ballston Commons Mall, where he knew there were several salons/barber shops certain to be open. We managed to get Metro tickets after telling an attendant we were from a town with two traffic lights and electronically challenged. We found a barber shop, got our respective hair cuts and went to Starbucks for some high-octane pick-me-up.
Ed & Becky picked us up there and took us to their old stomping grounds of Falls Church and to one of our favorite places, Mark’s Duck House. Mark’s is a dim sum Chinese restaurant. For blog readers who, like us, had never heard of such: dim sum is little things that the waiters/waitresses push around in little carts from table to table. You look over the cart and pick what you want. One of Gary’s favorite things is a whole little barbecued baby suckling pig done to a crisp on the outside. There are all sorts of dumplings and things that I could not name if I tried, but trust me, there have been very few things I’ve eaten there that aren’t tasty.
Unfortunately, when we backed out of our parking place a fellow hit Becky’s car in the rear bumper and our excursion to Target and the grocery store was cancelled. We went back to the marina, and since Ed & Becky couldn’t find a parking place, they let us out and wished me happy Mother’s Day.
I left Gary at the boat resting his knees and walked with Lois and Lorenzo to the Safeway to lay in supplies. As Lorenzo puts it, “This is a great reminder of why I don’t want to live here.” The GROCERY store had at least four security guards! I bought about 40 dollars worth of groceries, paid $84.00 for them and wheeled my buggy out the door, where the wheels locked electronically. Lorenzo and I had to LIFT the buggy to the taxi to put in the groceries, then LIFT it back over the curb. A security guard then came with a gizmo and unlocked the wheels.
When we got back to the marina there were people actually PARKED in the turning lane in front of the seafood market. I couldn’t believe it. Cars were sitting there, unoccupied while people picked up their orders at the market. It was insane. Wreckers and rollbacks were having a field day. It’s apparently some kind of weird game they play there: try to outwit the wrecker. To add insult to injury, the cab driver, who charged $8.25 to take the three of us and a few bags of groceries all of a mile to the marina, sputtered that he should have charged us for the time it took to retrieve our groceries from the trunk!
We ate our last crab cakes of the week on Saturday night and prepared to leave Capital Yacht Club. We’d had a capital time. No sightseeing, but it’s not fun in the rain anyway. Lorenzo and I agreed as to how we really didn’t want to go back to the Vietnam Memorial. It’s too gut-wrenching. And we hope the young people who are fighting this war we’re in now aren’t sent to die, then not allowed to finish the job they take pride in doing well.
We left early Sunday morning and our trip back down the Potomac was nice until we reached the junction of the Potomac and Chesapeake Bay. As usual, we had things that appeared battened down but weren’t. We took a lot of water over the bow, and into the leaks that inevitably escape detection. Maggie kept asking, “What’s the matter?” She also mutters a lot under her breath, which makes one suspicious of what she’s heard when.
By the time we reached Colonial Beach Marina it had started to rain and gotten pretty cold. We fueled up and tied up to a floating dock across from Li’l David. Just in time. (We definitely prefer floating docks. At the stationary kind the boat falls below or rises above the level of the dock. Fat people don’t jump well. Especially around docks.) The rain poured and the winds were gale-force most of the night. We were snug as bugs, watching our satellite TV and seeing the reports of tornadoes in a lot of the places we have family. Not the best Mother’s Day, but we’ve certainly been fortunate and know the Lord is looking out for us and our loved ones. I had Mother’s Day calls from all three of our boys.
We aren’t sure yet how long we’ll be here, but whenever we leave we plan to head in the direction of Baltimore. And Lois is cooking chicken and rice, pinto beans and biscuits for supper! Yummm!

